Heart Song, Dream On and Good Relationships

Everyone has a song in their heart. Everyone has a reason for being here and a season for making their highest, greatest most auspicious contribution. No one knows what that is or when that is for anyone else. Only our own heart knows what and when it is for us. Your heart wants to sing. Don’t die with your music still within you.

Dream On, Why have we forgotten how to dream? With our innocence gone, and the entertainment industry doing all the work for us, we quickly lose our capacity to dream possible futures. Stop. Close your eyes. And dream again. Put the stars in your dreams. And then reach for them. No need to struggle. Simply nurture the dream, sustain the vision, and watch it come true. It must, it’s the law.

Good Relationships, In order to create good relationships – with your mind, think about what you have to learn from others; with your eyes, look into good qualities of others; with your words, recognize, value and appreciate their accomplishments; with your actions, cooperate and do something for others.

Have safety as high priority during Corona virus times.

Who says a man can’t care for a newborn baby?

Who says a man can’t care for a newborn baby? And by saying so, aren’t we perpetrating more misogyny into our society? I have seen fathers taking care of babies just as well as mothers. Of course the mother has to be present for natural reasons. But that does not mean the man has no job there. If we already decide they don’t do anything, we have already pronounced a verdict without giving them an opportunity to do anything. Why would anyone want to counter that at all?

Unless we appreciate fathers who want to contribute to nurturing the child, we won’t create balanced healthy families. Men can nurture. Women can provide. Equality is a two way street. It is the so called “society” that is the root of the problem. “Be a man” or “Don’t behave like a girl” are some common remarks we get to hear.

This demarcation of the supposed manly and girlie behavior is drilled into our collective psyche. Casual misogyny (and racism as well) is ingrained in us right from a young age. We need to come out of this thinking and reach a place where it will be acceptable for a man to be a stay at home dad while the woman becomes the provider, for example. In a two parent family, parenting needs to be a team effort. Remember, our children learn from watching us and if we, as men, show that it is not a “man’s job” to nurture the child, the child will grow up with that mentality and the cycle will never break.

For all our modernization and progress, most of our minds are still stuck in the past century. Unless we come out of that, we will keep hearing these kind (and worse) of remarks frequently. However, I feel this whole obsession with gender stereotyping is new and a burden of our generation. I remember my dad and all our uncles perfectly capable of cooking and cleaning and taking care of children while we were growing up. The whole obsession of distancing men from familial roles is pretty recent.

These instances were and are a common occurrence when both parents are working. But there is a vast majority where it is still considered Men to be the bread earner and women to be the house makers. It’s not uncommon for women to hear things like “quit job after marriage” or “you need to take care of the family” etc. The mindset has been set in the name of culture and many an outdated practices.

Man has evolved from animal, so there is a bit of animal qualities or properties in him/her too. While yes, we are educated, we have capability to think etc. but still deep inside we are also a living being. In birds if you see, the male goes to get food while the female sits on the eggs and hatches and also takes care of the young ones by being with them. Male sits on the same nest guarding the nest against predators and snakes etc.

In animals, the male is nowhere to be seen. The female only takes care of cubs and even goes for hunting. She only teaches the young ones how to hunt, if you consider humans, a mother can raise her child as a single parent but it is very difficult for a father to do so.

The comfort, warmth and gentle affection that a mom gives can never be given by the dad. Yes he can change the diapers for kid, take the kid out for a stroll and protect the kid as required but not the love and affection. So yes, while mom cares for the kid, dad can do the side activities (assistant to mom) what society is trying to do now is reversing what all has been done in previous generations and doing that they are tilting towards the other side of balance.

Just let people live how they want. Why impose a new rule that is completely opposite of the previous rule. Well said, let the vested interests invest all they have to empower/ imbalance what’s done.  It’s always the right that will stand at last, nature will find means of balancing things.

After all, even after empowering all they can do is mimic. And let me tell you it’s always the weak that needs empowerment, not the strong. Indian Women’s were empowered long back and even they knew it, it’s the present lot that has lost its way due to bad choices and options and want to prove to men, god knows what .

In challenging times like coronavirus keep yourself safe and forgiving!

See also, Goodness and Cheerfulness

No Free Gifts In Life, Abundance and Seed of Peace

Before I get any kind of advancement or promotion in life I need to have earned the right to it. There are no free gifts in life nor are there any short cuts to success of a lasting nature.

Being worthy of any kind of responsibility requires an attitude of service to others. I earn a right only when I have given cooperation to others from my heart.

Abundance is to see that there are endless possibilities before us. And at the same time, still see an incredibly rich existence right where we are. It is a feeling of gratitude for everything and everyone we have in our life.

Seed of Peace, If we plant a positive, clean seed of thought and concentrate on it, we give it energy, like the sun gives to a seed in the earth. And as the seed in the earth awakens, stirs and begins to grow, the thoughts on which we concentrate awaken, stir and begin to grow. So let us sow positive thoughts.

Each morning before we begin the journey of the day let us sit still, in silence, and sow the seed of peace. Peace is harmony and balance. Peace is freedom from the burden of negativity and wastefulness. Let peace find its home within us. Peace is our original strength, our eternal tranquility of being.

Life may turn hard during times like corona virus pandemic, it’s our responsibility to beware and take care of our health aspect. Stay healthy always!

See also, Change Attitude for Life Story!